The short answer, is you’re living it. It’s something you’re already doing, being, and cultivating. It is thematic. You’ve probably been living your life purposes from the day you were born. Yes, plural. We may have an overriding theme in our life, but we are multidimensional beings and are of service in our lives in more ways than one. A better question to ask, is “Who am I now, and what are the patterns that have been with me all of my life?”
At the age of 19 I was on vacation with my best friend in Washington, D.C. and it was time to drive home. We started out in front of the Capitol building and drove for three hours. We ended up….in front of the Capitol building. In frustration, my friend who was driving said with great exasperation, “Where are we going?” With the map on my lap I said, “I can’t tell you where we’re going because I don’t know where we are!” To which she responded, “I don’t care where we are – I just want to know where we’re going!”
We laugh about it now, but that story is so indicative of clients who come to my office in such great angst and with a pure of heart wanting to know where they’re going. They have a great desire to live a life of purpose. As Caroline Myss says, “Would it be okay with you if your purpose were to live on a particular street in Cleveland because you bring great light to that neighborhood? Must your purpose be to serve humanity like Mother Theresa did?
Your life purpose is not your career. If it were, would your life be useless when you retire? Your life purpose is not to become famous doing what you do. What if your purpose were to serve time in prison to bring attention to a particular injustice? That’s certainly not glamorous, but perhaps your purpose was to “take one for the team” so to speak.
I know of a family who had a certain amount of discord, as do many families. A few years ago a baby was born into that family. The day of the birth, the baby’s father and grandfather began a journey of healing with one another. The child seems to say just the right thing at just the right time. Out of the mouths of babes. I’ve witnessed how by this child’s very presence healing takes place. This is one of her purposes. She is a Healer. She always will be, no matter what profession she chooses when she becomes an adult.
Another friend indicated one day that she was tired of having to be so vocal about what’s going on in the world. I told her to take a nap. She doesn’t have a choice. We need her to advocate for people who can’t do so for themselves, and to bring attention to the ills of society. (She said she was afraid I’d say that.)
As a life coach, one of my functions is to help put clients’ minds at ease on the subject of life purpose. Together we dig into their life story to uncover existing themes and the path becomes illuminated.
Margaret Snow is a Life Coach in Ithaca, New York, and is happy to work with you to help you, not only find your way in terms of life purpose, but to find peace, comfort and balance , whatever that looks like to you.